Creative Couples :

Who are creative couples:

Do you know couples that inspire you ?

Do you know couples who have that spark still ?

Do you know couples who laugh in between their fights ?

Do you know couples who fight but are not fighting against each other ?

The answer usually is … a ….yes one … or maybe  two.

And its so frightening…

When we say intimate relationships… we have very few role models and thats the challenge.

I know couples who are great parents together…

I know couples who are great business partners… or work colleagues… i know some who are travel buddies but whats missing is the wholeness of this one relationship. What’s missing in today’s times is the understanding and maturity with which we handle our conflicts and embrace our differences.

Definition of relationship has definitely evolved with times … and i so wish that it was for better. But the statistics show altogether different picture to us.

Separation rates are escalating at a deafening speed.

So how can i have a strong meaningful connection with my spouse or a partner.

Aligning expectations is one of the few most important things in a relationship. Calibrating expectations doesn’t mean you lower your expectations from your person. It means … you diversify them … you don’t ask one person to give you what ones entire village used to provide earlier. It also means that it’s humanly not possible for a person to fulfill all your needs.

Learning a sport, taking dance lessons, going for a play instead of a movie, treks, volunteering together for a cause, learning a new language. I have clients come and tell me they saw a complete new aspect of their partners personality when they saw their partner singing or dancing or when they get super charged up competing in a game. This adds element of fun consciously.

Doing NEW things that you enjoy together will solidify your friendship.

Playfulness is very highly underrated… and yet its what makes us feel energised and alive.

And that’s what many relationships need more – ALIVENESS!

Asking questions like … who am i in this relationship. What are the necessary changes i need to bring in myself to make my  relationship stronger are the questions we need to ask ourselves regularly… while its very easy to blame the other for the failure of the relationship. But it takes courage and vulnerability to admit our mistakes and take responsibility of our actions.

So people, time to get creative 😊

Preeti Pawar.

How to start living as the REAL you. 

Are you someone who struggles to reflect who you are in a social environment? 

We are so used to wearing a persona or social mask that it has now become an integral part of our own self-concept. In order to show more of our authentic self…we don’t have a one-step solution… This is an ongoing process. 

A journey that may go on forever. And that is so OKAY. When we develop a shame-bound identity we believe that a huge part of this identity is the integral part, of who we are as people and hide from the rest of the world which causes us to put up a mask.

So how to start shedding our unauthentic selves? 

By aligning our inner and outer world. By believing that your authentic self has always been with you. 

By diving more deeply into the journey towards self-discovery. 

By opening a direct line of communication between you and a deeper more authentic self who is just so much a part of you. 

Asking questions like …

When do I feel more energised? 

When do I feel drained? 

How do I feel when I meet a particular person? 

How does my body respond to it? 

Asking and then answering questions in alignment with your deeper self, will put you in a more authentic position, rather than escaping into a fake fantasy world that we create in our minds. 

And you know what .. deep down you would know… that it’s not you. 

Your authentic self knows 😊

Staying present with yourself is one way to understand yourself on a deeper level.

Preeti Pawar.

Whether it is your family, friends or a significant other, relationships have a compelling impact on the quality of your life. Nurturing a relationship is a rare skill that can be consciously learnt with proper guidance.

Handling disagreements/conflicts maturely and respectfully is the key to healthy bonding between people. Love is not just a feeling, it is a practice which needs very consistent efforts. Identifying your boundaries and being assertive about your needs, while also being respectful of the other person’s feelings can be taught.

We do an in-depth dive into love language and attachment styles to help you understand your relation with different people in your life. How not to run away from difficult conversations, how to embrace vulnerability to bond deeply with your partner is also addressed in therapy. For long we have treated relationships as a soft topic. While in my view relationship skills are the most important and hard to build skills in life. Not only understanding unhealthy signs help you avoid long term conflicts.

While understanding and practicing the art of being healthy relationships can nearly improve any aspect of your life.

Preeti Pawar.